tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post113221575244285420..comments2023-10-03T23:06:38.584+08:00Comments on SHER'S SHEER THOUGHTS: To Marry or Not to Marry...That is The Question...Cosmic_GurLhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17874352591772874050noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132725469746447512005-11-23T13:57:00.000+08:002005-11-23T13:57:00.000+08:00Ermmm...if every one in this whole wide world is a...Ermmm...if every one in this whole wide world is afraid that every r/ship is gonna end up in ruins, would there be any r/ship at all? How can a marriage work? No one knows cos if anyone knows, they would be best sellers right? <BR/><BR/>To me, to have a long lasting and happy marriage is always not expecting too much or dont put any expectation. Dont plan, well, some things do need to be plan, but for others, just let life take charge. Accept your spouse for who they are and not what u want them to be. Dont try to force change into them but talk to them for them to change. <BR/><BR/>I am no expert in love, in marriage but i guess we have to learn how to be one and try our best to make our marriage work which now seems like a very very hard thing to do.Red Ravenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04754991343710486535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132653678359874292005-11-22T18:01:00.000+08:002005-11-22T18:01:00.000+08:00Ylanda, Wise woman that granny of yours :)Ylanda, <BR/><BR/>Wise woman that granny of yours :)Cosmic_GurLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17874352591772874050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132652642693968872005-11-22T17:44:00.000+08:002005-11-22T17:44:00.000+08:00Captain Oats,I think she meant she's gonna end up ...Captain Oats,<BR/><BR/>I think she meant she's gonna end up being single like me :) But it aint so bad being single, kan? HeheheCosmic_GurLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17874352591772874050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132652209686508052005-11-22T17:36:00.000+08:002005-11-22T17:36:00.000+08:00What the heck does she means by "I'm gonna end up ...What the heck does she means by "I'm gonna end up like you"???? Grrr... <BR/><BR/>Oh pruplelilles, nothing last forever... Things can happen along the way - people change, feelings change.. That's why sometimes marriages fall apart, people drift apart.. It's sad but it's true!<BR/><BR/>I can't really agree that one should not trust your your spouse 100%.... It's not a good thing to start off a marriage with that. You will end up being revengeful and full of spite. You'll be living in fear and insecurity that will result in arguments, fights.. How to enjoy marriage life like that la...<BR/><BR/>Thinking to take the plunge soon? Well, my 2 cents worth - go in with an open mind. And always be prepared... It's true, your marriage is what you make of it.. <BR/><BR/>InsyaAllah, you'll be that happy couple like Tok Yang and Tok Ayah! It runs in the blood! ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132638633252298732005-11-22T13:50:00.000+08:002005-11-22T13:50:00.000+08:00"Never trust your spouse 100%".------my old granny..."Never trust your spouse 100%".------my old granny said the same thing to me.[V]landahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403716135138349091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132623025244953612005-11-22T09:30:00.000+08:002005-11-22T09:30:00.000+08:00Rain,Thanks! Will drop by :)Rain,<BR/><BR/>Thanks! Will drop by :)Cosmic_GurLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17874352591772874050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132611346460049852005-11-22T06:15:00.000+08:002005-11-22T06:15:00.000+08:00Trust and love. Yup. Two of the most important ele...Trust and love. Yup. Two of the most important elements in a good marriage. <BR/><BR/>U should trust your heart too. If it feels right for you, then it is. <BR/><BR/>I've made my mistakes. Learnt the hard way. Now wiser, but still learning. No regrets though. <BR/><BR/>In fact, I just blogged about a related topic to your question. Perhaps it may help. Feel free to comment. :)Rainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552534829257834550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132535944363369602005-11-21T09:19:00.000+08:002005-11-21T09:19:00.000+08:00Seeking solace, you are right. Trust is an importa...Seeking solace, you are right. Trust is an important element that makes a marriage. I believe respect is equally important too. Alah, my Tok Yang and Yok Ayah are old schools la. Besides my Tok Yang very de garang one. Hehehe..<BR/>Oreos, believe me ive learned my lesson. No more diving in. But yeah love does make u do stupid things. But smtimes thats not such a bad thing, kan? HeheheheCosmic_GurLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17874352591772874050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132391137040396052005-11-19T17:05:00.000+08:002005-11-19T17:05:00.000+08:00seeking solace makes a lot of sense. it's good th...seeking solace makes a lot of sense. it's good that you're asking for advice. cos a lot of people just dive in when they're in love. you know, love makes you do stupid things, kinda stuff. all the best with whatever u decide to do ;)Oreoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06274945174736073448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18979801.post-1132219596002788362005-11-17T17:26:00.000+08:002005-11-17T17:26:00.000+08:00Probably a lot of luck and hard work. I believe th...Probably a lot of luck and hard work. I believe that it takes a lot of hard work and sacrifice to have the kind of relationship one wants. There's so many elements that makes a marriage. Like trust, how can the marriage work if you start off by not having complete trust? By not having trust, it's going to manifest in how you are with each other, ie. your actions and reactions, that's where the bickering starts. Look at what you can offer him rather than what he can offer you.<BR/>I've failed in marriage and I acknowledge my mistakes but for now I just refuse to look at whether I'd marry or not. Ask la your Tok Yang and Tok Ayah what's their secret :)Seeking Solacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04024874245365804812noreply@blogger.com