Random Thoughts

Sometimes I think being a funny and jovial person has its disadvantages. People don’t take you seriously and they tend to say hurtful things and not apologise because they think you’re okay with it. And if you tell them that what they said hurt your feelings they will say to you,” Alah tu pun nak merajuk ke, I’m just joking. Sheesh!” So you end up being called “Ms. Sensitive”.

Sometimes you want to help your siblings but you feel like they’ve taken you for granted. They don’t ask whether you can help them or not anymore but they simply assume or expect that you’re going to help them out and if you can’t then they make you feel guilty about it.

Sometimes you just want to say “NO” when people asked you for help but somehow they managed to guilt-trip you into saying “YES”. Sigh…

Sometimes you think you know a person and you entrusted all your secrets with that person. Little did you know that person is a two-timing, stinking, sneaky lil bitch. Sigh…

Sometimes it’s better to keep your opinions to yourself and not share it with the whole world because frankly, no one wants to listen to what you have to say anyway.

Sometimes when you’re feeling sad, all you need is for someone to hug you and not say anything else.

Sometimes you just wish you can eat ice-cream all day long.

Sometimes you just wish people would stop asking you whether you’re pregnant. I’m so tempted to shout at their face, “I’m not pregnant, I’m just PHAT!” Tapi nanti kang kena heart attack plak all those makciks.

Sometimes you wish Monday was never invented. In the words of Boomtown Rats, "I don't like Mondays. I want to shoot the whole day down".

Hello, my name is Sher and I'm a seafoodholic.

I just realised I haven’t updated my blog for so long. I also haven’t been reading other people’s blogs. Sorry guys. I just came back from visiting my parents in law in Kuching 2 weeks ago and ever since my mom’s bibik went back to Indon life has been pretty hectic. I swear I don’t know how people can survive without maids. I’m not trying to be “mengada-ngada” here but housework is no joke man. The only time we can do the laundry is over the weekend. If I wash my clothes in the morning on a weekday then my mom has to hang the clothes and I don’t want her standing in the hot sun hanging all those clothes. It’s so hot nowadays and making her do that is just cruel.

When we had a maid, we would only wash our own dishes, well sometimes when we’re lazy we just put them in the sink. Now we not only have to do all the dishes but we have to scrub the pots and pans too. Haiyooo, very tiring lah. And when my SIL used to leave her 1 year old daughter, Cinta with me, I would only take her into my room when she’s about to go to sleep. Other than that I would hand her over to the maid and the maid would carry her around and play wit hher until she’s tired and ready to sleep. Now she’s with me every minute of every second of the day if she stays over at my mom’s house. No longer do I have the luxury of handing her over to the maid when I’m tired and needed to rest. And she’s at that age where if she sees me, she doesn’t want to be with anyone else, not even my mom or dad. She will cry and cry and since I don’t have the heart to see her like that so I would end up carrying her to my room and play with her. I want kids badly but sometimes I wonder how one takes care of their child without any domestic help. I mean you cannot do any housework until the baby takes a nap especially if they’re at that age where you have to watch them all the time! Cinta is at that age right now where if you turn your head away from her for 5 seconds and suddenly you will see her already climbing up the staircase.

Oh yeah, today is Cinta's 1st birthday and I wanna wish her Happy Birthday and that Auntie Sher loves her a lot! Ain't she a cutiepie?!

So anyway, my trip to went really well. It was a food fest actually. Hubby and I ate non-stop and I tried so many new delicacies. Some I like and some is just not my cuppa tea. Pictures below:-

This is called linut. It's basically tapioca flour cooked and eaten with sambal belacan. SILs and hubby are crazy about them but me, not so much.

The delicious laksa sarawak. I love this dish.

The famous mee kolok. A must-have if you're in Kuching.

We also had seafood somewhere somewhere out of town. The dish below is Oyster Omelette. Not my cuppa tea. It's just too eggy?

This is ambal, a type of "siput".

The yummy buttered prawns.

The jellyfish. Also errmm NOT my cuppa tea. Hehehe...

What You Need To Know About Red Raven

I was tagged by Mrs. A where I was to present some facts about my hubby aka My Boo. Here goes...

1) He’s sitting in front of the TV, what is on the screen?

- Well, it would be either sports or music videos.

2) You’re out to eat; what kind of dressing does he get on his salad?

- Hubby is not fussy. He would eat anything.

3) What’s one food he doesn’t like?

- Fish. He would eat them once in a while if he has to but he’s not a fan.

4) You go out to eat and have a drink. What does he order?

- Either ice lemon tea or vanilla coke.

5) Where did he go to high school?

- St Joseph I think…Hahahaha..i know this coz he mentioned it so often. I hope I got it right. Hahaha!

6) What size shoes does he wear?

- Size 8 or 9

7) If he was to collect anything, what would it be?

- Action figures. You know like Ichigo from Bleach, Optimus Prime from Transformers, Batman…he’s such a kid at heart.

8) What is his favorite type of sandwich?

- Anything with beef or chicken in it.

9) What would this person eat every day if he could?

- Lamb. Lamb. Lamb.

10) What is his favorite cereal?

- Hmmm…I’ve never really seen him eat cereals or buy any. He prefers roti canai or tosai for breakfast.

11) What would he never wear?

- Speedo or leather pants I think. Hahaha…Errmm I dont think I want him to wear those too

12) What is his favorite sports team?

- Haiyaaa…this one if I get it wrong then there’s something wrong with me. Manchester United (ala yang kalah 2 games in a row tu…hehehe…wurve you baby)

13) Who did he vote for?

- He didn’t vote the last time coz he was here in KL.

14) Who is his best friend?

- ME! ME! ME! Kan yang? Kan? Kan? :P

15. What is something you do that he wishes you wouldn’t do?

- Merajuk, sulk and not talk to him when I’m angry at him. I can go on for 3 days not talking to him.

16. What is his heritage?

- Eh? I don’t understand this question. Like where is he from ke? He’s from Kuching and he’s a Malay.

17. What is his favourite colour?

- Blue and black I think. I’m tempted to say RED but naaahhh…hehehe

18. What is his habit?

- Reading in the toilet. In fact, he loves to read so he would read before he goes to sleep. I wish I could sleep with the lights on but since I couldn’t so he had to read in another room whenever I sleep.

19. What is he proud of?

- The fact that he moved to KL, leaving his friends and family behind to be with me. I’m proud of him for doing that too.

20. Lastly, do you think he will read this?

- Of course he will since he has a blog too.

I would like to tag Ms. B (I wanna know about your Mini B, can ah?) and my hubby. Let see if he knows his wife eh?

Green-eyed Monster anyone?

L called and told me that a mutual friend of ours, K is having some problem with her husband. Her husband apparently had not “touched” her for 2 weeks now. This was not the first time K had complained to L. K had also confided in me a few weeks back that her husband never seemed to want to have sex with her. She said she tried everything to “seduce” her husband like wear sexy lingerie but her husband just ignored her and went to sleep. My friend K has been married for almost 5 years and she too has been trying to conceive. She’s frustrated because her husband is not doing his part in trying to get her pregnant. He’s been coming home late and when he gets home all he wants to do is sleep. K said there was never any problem before with their sex life.

K called L to tell her that she’s giving up on trying to conceive. L advised K to be patient and to sit down and talk about it with her husband. I have a theory but I don’t think I want to share it with K. L told me that she thinks K’s husband is getting “it” from someone else, that he’s having an affair because no man could last a week, what more 2 weeks without sex unless he’s sick and K’s husband is healthy as horse. I told L not to make any assumption because it’s a very dangerous one to make. L then went on to say that we shouldn’t trust our partner 100%. L said that she has been married for almost 7 years and still doesn’t trust her husband 100% even though her husband has never done anything to make her not trust him. She said she often checked his phone whenever he took a shower and checked his emails as she has kept all his password with her.

My husband often tells me he trusts me. That’s why he said he never asked me who had texted me whenever he hears the message tone on my phone. He said he believed me when I told him I’m going out with my girlfriends and never doubted my words. But I on the other hand told him I don’t trust him 100%. He said he knows because he knows my perangai very well. Suffice to say it has something to do with my upbringing but I won’t go into that. Whenever I hear the message tone on his phone I will ask him who it was especially if he receives them at night. I don’t care if people think I’m paranoid or I’m being a controlling freak. I know he has never given me any reason to not trust him but hey it’s better to be safe than sorry. I don’t think I’m that bad. At least I don’t check my husband’s phone, email or facebook account without his permission. Unless there is a reason for me to do so lah. Siaplah I don’t care, I would ask him for his password and if he doesn’t give it to me then I know something is up. Privacy schimacy. Hah!!!

Anyway, I would really like to know reasons why husbands don’t want to have sex with their wife, especially if the wife is ever so willing to do it. I often hear complaints from the men that usually it is their wives who refuse to have sex but what is happening to my friend is really puzzling.

Fun In The Sun

This was the view from my chalet, Salang Beach Resort. It took us 6 hour journey by bus, then 3 hour boat ride to get to this place. Penat giler but it was all worth it. It has white sandy beach and water was clear as crystal you could see fish swimming in it.

While I was away in Tioman, hubby had a little project going on. He made my birthday and anniversary card. I knew my husband is a creative person but I didnt know he was this creative. Hehehehe...

All That Jazzzzzz...

I am off to Tioman tonight and will be staying at Salang Beach Resort. I’ve never been to Tioman before. But I have heard pretty good reviews and I’m very excited. This time, hubby will be left at home. I am dreading the bus journey though. Seeing that it is going to be a long weekend I am guessing a lot of people will be on the road back to their hometown tonight. For sure the highway will be congested.

My SIL just told me that her due date is on 09.09.09. Cool eh?

I am reading Khaled Hosseini’s A Thousand Splendid Suns. So far I have not cried yet. I was a wreck when I read the Kite Runner. I am also reading Stephanie Meyer’s Eclipse. I’m trying so hard NOT to finish the book so soon. I don’t want my relationship with Edward Cullen to end. Yes, I am delusional that way.

Hubby promised to do something over the weekend. We shall see whether he keeps his promise.

So just to be clear, who is the MB of Perak now? We’re now holding meetings under a raintree huh? Nice.

I went to Jason Mraz’s concert 2 days ago and had an amazing time. He is such a good performer and musician. And he is so cool and likes to merepek on stage.

Lyrics from the song A Wonderful Life by Jason Mraz,

And it takes no time to fall in love
But it takes you years to know what love is
It takes some fears to make you trust
It takes those tears to make it rust
It takes the dust to have it polished

How true it is.

Have a good weekend guys.

Express Thyself

I once wrote that blogging should be about free expression, not good impression.

However, I am not sure whether that is true anymore. Sometimes when people are given the freedom to express themselves they tend to go overboard. They don’t care what kind of impression they’re giving or message they’re sending, as long as it’s out there for the whole world to read, they’re content with it.

I admit ever since I came across PiahZadora’s blog a few months back, I’ve been a silent reader. And sometimes I find that the comments made were even more entertaining than what Piah had written. However, of late I wonder whether some of the people who commented on PiahZadora’s blog have feelings. I mean if you can joke about a person’s inability to conceive or the fact that a person has hives and in pain then you’re the kind of person that has no compassion or mercy for other people.

Now I understand why some bloggers have made their blogs "private"... Sigh…