Tuesday, November 22, 2005

Does Friendship Lasts Forever?

Sigh…Today has not been a productive day at all. Came to work, had breakfast and called a few people then surfed the net for few hours. Have you ever experienced those days when you just don’t feel like doing anything? Work is piling up but you’re just not motivated enough to do it? Yeah, yeah I know people say you gotta love what you do or else you’re gonna be miserable and you wont function as efficiently as you should have. I don’t hate my job. I have a “love-sometimes annoyed” relationship with my job.

Ever wondered how it would be like if we don’t have to work at all but getting paid handsomely every month? Able to go for long holidays and get to pamper yourself by going to the spa and at the same time shop till you drop. I’m not someone who would whine about how her job sucks coz God knows I hate whiners. I have a friend, let’s call her Miss R who kept telling me she’s too busy to meet up because she has a lot of work to do. I can understand that her job is pretty demanding coz she’s in Marketing. But I mean seriously, are there people out there who worked from sunrise to sunset and not have time to socialize at all? I can understand if occasionally you’ve been given a special project by your boss then you have a deadline and you’re suppose to finish the project within the time given but do you get special projects like that everyday? Can’t you at least spare half an hour with a friend over a cuppa?


Anyway what bugs me about Miss R is that whenever she has a problem be it with her boss or with her bf, she expects me to drop everything and tend to her emotional needs. And I would always be there for her, at 3am with a cup of hot tea and box of tissue nursing her wounded heart. And when she is emotionally well again, she forgets about me. Maybe I am too nice. Maybe my shoulders are too broad that everyone feels that they can just come cry on it anytime it suits them. Thinking that we’ve been friends since secondary school (that’s a looooooooooong time, heh…), I would always call her up to ask how she was doing. Every time I called her, she would say how much she misses me and that we HAVE to catch up real soon. Every time I make the plan she would agree to it and then 20 mins prior to meeting up, she would call me and apologise profusely that she has to cancel. EVERY TIME. So, after so many last minute cancellations, I just don’t bother anymore. If she wants to see me then she would call and I would be more than happy to meet up with her. However, that rarely ever happens unless she’s in need of an emotional support, which of course then she would call.


Another friend, H told me that you gotta cut off toxic friends like this. How could I? We’ve been friends for more than 15 years!! But I cant be the only one that treasures this friendship. H is right I suppose. I have to slowly let go. That’s the only way not to get hurt. That’s the only way to make Miss R realize that she cant take friendship for granted…not anymore…

4 comments:

Captain Oats said...

H is prolly right... Why should you if Miss R does not put you anywhere near her Priority List.. Like marriage, friendship is also about give and take.. You can't be giving all the way and vice versa.. Just my 2 cents thought Miss PRUplelillies! :-)

Cosmic_GurL said...

You're abso-friggin-lutely right O' Capn My Capn :)
Must learn how to "keraskan" my heart..heheh..Dammit! It was a typo error laaaarrr. I know how to spell purple!

M said...

well.. just got to remember my friendship with may be we can call her Miss.J.
we share the same freindhip as u have stated....
but i guess, some are really lucky to have freindship which is true adn strong...
inspite of not giving time fot each other... both generally get back to each ones support and care.

probably at soem point of time we all need little breathing space, to stay aloof and just not be in touch...

H is not very right....
jsut let teh friendship go on and on.

M said...

well.. just got to remember my friendship with may be we can call her Miss.J.
we share the same friendship as u have stated....
but i guess, some are really lucky to experience friendship which is true and strong...
inspite of not giving time for each other... both generally get back to each ones support and care.

probably at some point of time we all need little breathing space, to stay aloof and just not be in touch...

H is not very right....
just let the friendship go on and on.

as said by my friend......
hey M, a girl is always a girls best friend..........