Friday, March 20, 2009

Green-eyed Monster anyone?

L called and told me that a mutual friend of ours, K is having some problem with her husband. Her husband apparently had not “touched” her for 2 weeks now. This was not the first time K had complained to L. K had also confided in me a few weeks back that her husband never seemed to want to have sex with her. She said she tried everything to “seduce” her husband like wear sexy lingerie but her husband just ignored her and went to sleep. My friend K has been married for almost 5 years and she too has been trying to conceive. She’s frustrated because her husband is not doing his part in trying to get her pregnant. He’s been coming home late and when he gets home all he wants to do is sleep. K said there was never any problem before with their sex life.

K called L to tell her that she’s giving up on trying to conceive. L advised K to be patient and to sit down and talk about it with her husband. I have a theory but I don’t think I want to share it with K. L told me that she thinks K’s husband is getting “it” from someone else, that he’s having an affair because no man could last a week, what more 2 weeks without sex unless he’s sick and K’s husband is healthy as horse. I told L not to make any assumption because it’s a very dangerous one to make. L then went on to say that we shouldn’t trust our partner 100%. L said that she has been married for almost 7 years and still doesn’t trust her husband 100% even though her husband has never done anything to make her not trust him. She said she often checked his phone whenever he took a shower and checked his emails as she has kept all his password with her.

My husband often tells me he trusts me. That’s why he said he never asked me who had texted me whenever he hears the message tone on my phone. He said he believed me when I told him I’m going out with my girlfriends and never doubted my words. But I on the other hand told him I don’t trust him 100%. He said he knows because he knows my perangai very well. Suffice to say it has something to do with my upbringing but I won’t go into that. Whenever I hear the message tone on his phone I will ask him who it was especially if he receives them at night. I don’t care if people think I’m paranoid or I’m being a controlling freak. I know he has never given me any reason to not trust him but hey it’s better to be safe than sorry. I don’t think I’m that bad. At least I don’t check my husband’s phone, email or facebook account without his permission. Unless there is a reason for me to do so lah. Siaplah I don’t care, I would ask him for his password and if he doesn’t give it to me then I know something is up. Privacy schimacy. Hah!!!

Anyway, I would really like to know reasons why husbands don’t want to have sex with their wife, especially if the wife is ever so willing to do it. I often hear complaints from the men that usually it is their wives who refuse to have sex but what is happening to my friend is really puzzling.