Friday, June 29, 2007

Happy Birthday Tok Wan and Tok Yang!!!



I'm going back to my mom's kampung in Kedah this weekend. We're going to celebrate my grandma's belated birthday and my grandad's upcoming birthday. My grandad was born on 7th July and my grandma on 6th June. Cool dont u think so? They've got 13 children and 69 grandchildren. They've been married for god knows how long but they still act like a couple of kids in love, you know? It must be nice to be so in love. My grandma still gets jealous..of the maid no less. So she made sure that no one served my grandad but her, be it cooking, putting the food on the table to ironing his clothes. They are truly devoted to one another.


Now tell me, how many wives now do all that for their husbands? Seriously. Let me be the first to say, "No, I don't do what my grandma does for my grandad all the time."


I'm not a perfect wife, god knows my husband and I have had our fair share of arguments about this. He wants me to cook at least on weekends to which I do sometimes but I just don't enjoy cooking. I like baking (however, takkan nak sumbat your husband muffins or cake everyday, kan?) but I'm just so lazy when it comes to cooking. I mean he gives me enough motivation for me to cook like praising me and telling me my dishes tastes really good but it's still not enough to motivate me to cook.


We women nowadays work just as hard as the men. Gone are the days when a family can survive with a single income. Women nowadays are so unlike our grandmothers back in those days whereby their main duty was taking care of the kids, doing house chores and putting a hot meal on the table. These days women have to work in order for the family to live rather comfortably especially if you live in the city. The husband usually takes care of the house mortgages, car instalments, water and electricity bills and oh yeah not forgetting the astro bill, maid's salary and maybe at the beginning of the year the school fees and uniforms for the children while the wife usually takes care of the groceries, kid's everyday allowances and the wife is usually the accountant in the family i.e. makes sure a portion of the salary goes into savings.


So, we work as hard as men. As such, when we get home we're as tired as the men too. But since it's ingrained in us that "perempuan belajar tinggi macam mana pun kena masuk dapur" by our grandmothers so we become "Wonder Woman" or try to be one. When we reach home we can't just take our shoes off, sit on our comfy Ogawa chair, switch on the tv and turn on channel 76 and read the newspaper at the same time because as mothers we have that maternal instincts where the only natural thing for a mother to do when she steps into the house is to hug her children (if she has any) and play with them. We do that because we love our children and also because we do not want our children to think that the maid is their mother, god knows the children might think so since they're with the maid from morning to evening! After playing with the children, Wonder Woman will rush to the kitchen and cook for the family. The maid can't help because she's busy taking care of the children.
After she has finished cooking then she has to make sure the kids are bathed and she has to take a bath too because god forbid as a wife you have to "berhias" for your husband. You have to put "wangi-wangian" and make sure "ketiak tak bau masam". Then after the husband and children have eaten, Wonder Woman has to make sure the children finish their homework and then get them ready for bed. What does the husband do? He's in front of the tv watching "Gerak Khas".
Where am I going with all this you ask? Easy.
  • When your wife looks tired after coming back from work, please don't ask her "Masak apa hari ni Tipah?" instead ask her "Nak I urut yang?"
  • The first thing you should do after coming back from work is to go to your wife, no matter in what state she is in, whether she is wearing your white pagoda t-shirt with her "kain batik" or she's in her "baju kelawar", you should give her a kiss on both her cheeks and say, "I love you sayang" instead of "Iskh! Berapa hari tak mandi ni Tipah?"

Sekian, terima kasih. Have a good weekend everyone! Don't be naughty, especially to my hubby because this is the first weekend i'll be leaving you alone in the house.

Disclaimer : Cerita ini tidak ada kaitan dengan suami saya. Suami saya seorang yang penyayang dan setiap hari dia balik dari office dia akan cium pipi saya. Ahaks!

24 comments:

Yours Truly ... XOXO said...

Am I eligible to be a wonder woman? I do take care of the bills AND grocery… I do work as hard as men… I do hug my child and play with her… I do cook…sometimes… But I don’t have a husband… ;P
Well…without women, men are a mess… But without men … I survived so far! Eheheh ;P

Cosmic_GurL said...

From what uve said so far, i'd say ure more than qualified to be a Wonder Woman :)

DiaHarris said...

how about me? single. pay bills. don't cook (shy lar nak masuk dapur). niece ngan nephew boleh kira tak?

**romantic nyer ur grandma & grandpa..

EDDY PURNAMA SPARROW said...

happy birthday 2 ur grandparents yeah


i like this part:
"The husband usually takes care of the house mortgages, car instalments, water and electricity bills and oh yeah not forgetting the astro bill, maid's salary and maybe at the beginning of the year the school fees and uniforms for the children while the wife usually takes care of the groceries, kid's everyday allowances "

nampak sgt the guys have to fork in more. so balance lah with the chore....me being MCP hehehehe...thank god im far away so u cannot klonk my head,,,,'

me will give kisses 2 the wife 2..

agus said...

Eh, how's your left eye lid? Hope everything's okay.

About cooking, i think it's nice to do it because of passion and love, not because a person is obliged to, not because the person is bound by it, i.e. a wife's responsibility.

I love cooking when entertaining; friends and family, treating them with nice home cooked meal. I love cooking when I'm trying new things, experimenting with affordable fine dining and savouring dishes enjoyed hundreds of miles across the continent, in the comfort of my home sweet home.

I hate cooking when I run out of ideas, when there is no motivation to spend a chunk of my free weeknight time in the kitchen instead of watching Heroes or astro channel 78. I hate cooking when the act of eating is just to complete my daily routine.

Irene said...

I'm very lucky my husband enjoys doing the cooking for me. ;p

Happy Birthday to your grandparents! They sound like such a sweet, loving couple. =)

dzu is awesome said...

awak memang bertuah ada suami yg penyayang.adakah kasih sayang dia sama dan tidak berubah pasa masa musim bola?


good weekend to you!
dah tgk transformers?

VanDerWijck said...

hahaha.. very interesting la ini hari punya post.. hehehe.. act kan.. apa yg akak tulis tu kan mmg BETOL.. thank GOD kiter dapat husband yg setiap hari x kira kiter tgh bau masam cam ikan masin pun dia still akan datang peluk & cium pp kiter sambil cakap, "sayang isteri abang..". wahahaha.. :P

M.I.S.S.Y said...

me too. im very lucky to have myself, ALL BY MYSELF, to settle e'thing..!! hahahha...!

but surely, when the right time comes, definitely i need a man..!

Happy Bdays to both of 'em. Have a good weekend. Drive safe.

UglyButAdorable said...

happy birthday to atuk and wan...may the have abundant of happiness in life ahead...

and yeah so true...we're wonder woman kan.....nasib hubby you cium u tiap hari..kalau tak???

princesswaffzonkle said...

cooking as a student rawks. ur dish sux but everyone will still eat it.

D.N.A.S said...

I've decided to stop trying to be a wonder woman. These days I just try to 'buat yang terbaik'. Kekeke.
Yeah, I don't enjoy cooking much.

The Winged Acrophobic said...

Semoga tok dan nenek dipanjangkan umur, sihat walafiat. Couples should not have unreasonable expectations of one another. Kalau nak Wonder Woman for a wife, kenalah jadi Superman. And vice-versa. Alamak, husbands pun selalu balik kerja bau hapak jugak. And we'd like a kiss before mandi jugak. And I think I've said too much for a guy here.....

akula said...

Kalau kiss kang tersambung lak ke kisah yang seterusnya.:) Letih sama la jugak, kan, kan?

ytxis said...

Damn! why do blogs have to end at the best part? I mean come on...after the wangi-wangian and after gerak khas what happen? U mean he goes to his side of the bed and count the ceiling panel?
BTW ur grandma and me, we both share same bday,no, not the year.

Cosmic_GurL said...

diahariss - shy nak masuk dapur? Your dapur ada gorgeous hunks ke? :p

eddy sparrow - Hep! Amboi! Tu mmg MCP statement maximum tu. Balik M'sia nanti i klonk yr head kay :P

Agus - My left eyelid is fine, thanks for asking :) What's channel 78 again?

irene - You're such a lucky woman! I've to make my husband learn how to cook then...hehehe...

Dzu - Hahaha! He's half loving when it's musim bola. Kita tengok transformers this Tues :)

vanderwijck - Hehehe..bertuah la badan awak ni dpt suami penyayang :)

missy - Ure right! Hehehe...I did everything myself before I got married too. And I still do some things myself without depending on the hubby

UBA - Kalau hubby I tak cium I hari2 alamat dia kena tido kat
luar la..Hehehe...

waffzonkle - That's coz we have no choice. Sapa yang masak tu dikira life saver...hehehe..tak sedap pun bedal sajer la

Cosmic_GurL said...

dnas - Hehehehe...me too! I cuma buat yang termampu jer :P

WA - Hahaha...tu u kena cakap dgn your wife la bro...usually husb yang kena cari wife to kiss...

akula - Apa salahnya..Halal pun kan? hehehe..tak biasa ke?

ytxis - Ni bukan blog XXX laaa..Nanti when I start an 18SX punya blog and i'll invite u kay. Hehehe...

thewailer said...

hope the weekend was a blast aye :)

Cosmic_GurL said...

the wailer - yeah it was! There was so much food. Hehehe...

cikPijah said...

tak aci.. asyik2 tipah yg bersalah.. kesian kat saper2 yg nama dier tipah tu :p

yalumni said...

TiPaahhhhhhhhh....

mana roti canai aku ???

heheheheh

ti.e.na said...

pasnih pakai nama pijah pulak tau.:p

neway i hope me n hubby nanti will jadi like ur grandparents.so sweet la they..

Lil' Miss Easydent said...

ur grandma still jealous? that's soooo cute!! couple should be jealous camtu until they grow old. baru la sayang namanya kan? ;) my love to ur grannies dear...

DiaHarris said...

itu hanya alasan saya untuk tidak masuk ke dapur..
muakakaaa!!