Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Big Girls Don't Cry

CAUTION : This is an "I-feel-sorry-for-myself" post. I will not apologise for making those who read this post think that Cosmic_Gurl is a big whiny baby, that she should just suck it up and get on with her life!
Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock.

It must have been the longest 60 seconds of my life.

Then came the result.

I wished it showed this…





But sadly it didn’t. Sigh.

I know, I know. It’s just been 5 months since we got married. Hubby said to think about my friends who have been married for 4-5 years but still couldn’t get pregnant.
But I’m getting older, B. I’m scared.

What if…....? NO! Must not have negative thoughts! But it's normal to feel this way, right?

I should get myself checked out, just to be safe.
I should, shouldn’t I? Or is it too soon?

47 comments:

Yours Truly ... XOXO said...

sabar ok beb...the time will come... ;P some people waited years to have a baby...

vanderwijck said...

sabar la, kak.. cepat atau lambat, insyaAllah 'anugerah' itu pasti akan akak dapat jugak.. cuma jgn lupa usaha & banyakkan berdoa yer.. take care!! =)

akula said...

I think its normal for woman who go married to expect getting pregnant right away. But jangan be so sadlah if you dont. Biasalah tu. Just have to have sex more often jer. If you did it once a week, try once or twice a day. Of course it doesnt hurt if you want to check, but are you prepared mentally if nanti dr kata you or your husband are unable to conceive? Just my 2 cents.

Cosmic_GurL said...

yours truly & vanderwijck - Yeah i know...just feels like venting :)

akula - Just have sex more often? LOL!!! That's your advice huh? Well, it's the best advice so far! Funny la you :)) Thanks bro!

missy is K.U said...

YOU ROCK LA BRADERRRRRR!!! - akula...

i culdnt agree more with en. akula..hahaha...besides than that, syok whatttt sis..!

opss should i keep my mouth shut..ni adalah discussion utk orang2 yg dah kawin kaa???

ala relax la sis, my sister after 8 years baru dapat anak..take it ez ya?

Ms J said...

oh sweetie, its soooo ok to sound and be whiny in oyur own blog..i say, INDULGE all you want, it is afterall yOU blog. take it from the DQ and WhinyQueen herself.
as regards the pregger test, take your time, it comes in the most unexpected times. i think if you have yourself tested so soon into your marriage, it may create unnecessary pressure for you and hubby. enjoy the romps and the lil one will turn up soon enough...

akula said...

Laaaa, and I thought I was being serious;) Hehe

UglyButAdorable said...

i second u la missy...hahahhaaa...brudder akula nie memang la rawk gaban nyerr...

biler la wa nak dapat legal humpin' nie..hehhh..hehhh..

btw CG...sabar sabar..insya Allah the day will come...big hug...

Cosmic_GurL said...

missy - After 8 years????? *Pengsan* I don't know if I have the patience to wait that long

Ms J - :)) Yeah I thought abt the pressure too. Dont want sex to be the only means of getting pregnant. Sex should be fun, right? Hehehe..

Akula - LOL! I knew you were being serious but it was a funny statement :)

UBA - Thanks dear..legal humping huh? Hehehe...Yang "kawin sudah tapi nikah belum" tu kira bukan legal humping la? :P

vedd said...

Ala bam rilek le... consider this as your honeymoon year laa hehe... plus you can play play a lot oso :D

the ectopy said...

ala....i nak baby jugak!!! (tapi before that, nak kahwin jugak!)

diamond baby said...

Been there done that! I actually got bunting pelamin and miscarriaged few times until I actually gave birth 2 years later. Gila lamakan...but I believe that when the time is right, god will give you one. I can't tell you to be patient coz its easier said than done so I’ll offer my hugs instead!

p/s go see a gynea if still negative result after more than 1 year of actively trying.

Cosmic_GurL said...

vedd - Hahaha! ure right. I loike to play play a lot! :P

ectopy - Hehehe..one thing at a time kay dear...pelan pelan kayuh :)

DB - Thanks dear. Wow! It's only been 5 months and i'm already edgy. Cant imagine how u must have felt. But good that everything turned out alright :)

missy is K.U said...

babe...
pelan-pelan kayuh kalu bila nak sampai ...lol..!!!
yes, i pun nak baby with legal humping.(baru menyedari usia ini dah tua ayakkkkk)
UBA - moh kita ...*u ada calon utk i tak*

ifzan said...

relax beb, maybe nows not the best time for you yet. nanti when its time, im sure tuhan will kurniakan the perfect child for you both...

ti.e.na said...

hey dont give up just yet..cube dan cube lagi!:p

ernie said...

Cosmic_gurl you banyakan la sabar, saya just tumpah beri komen coz saya pun mcm awak. cuma saya laie lama.. this ogos dah masuk 2 tahun perkahwinan...

bagi saya si Akula punya pendapat mmg funny.. coz mau kata kita tak kuat "buat".. kuat juga.. cuma mungkin apa boleh saya ckp... rezeki blm sampai.. and my doktor kata salah timing..

cuma kena banyak bersabar. kalau mau jumpa doktor better after 1 year. and pi doktor pakar ya.. kalau kerajaan dorang tak layan.. kekekek..

anyway good luck.. sama2 la kita berdoa moga dimurahkan rezeki

shell said...

At the risk of being labeled as Ms-know-it-all...

Here's my 2 cents. I think you also need to know when to do it i.e. the ovulation time. Pastu i tgk desperate housewife, after rompin' you need to angkat kaki tinggi2 for gravity to kick in. hehehe.. I dunno if that works. I heard also letak bantal bawah your bottom also helps. :P

Gynea selalu tak layan if you are only married less than a year. That's what I heard.

Tapi kan, I really think that it will come when you least expected.

Good luck and cheer up!

akula said...

Banyakkan seks, bertambah besar peluang nak dapat. Kalau sekali seminggu, 52 peluang setahun, kalau sekali sehari, 365 peluang. 2 kali sehari 730. see the difference? Sorry, tak tolak masa hang mai period. Anyway, I think you got the idea.

mobilemom said...

Ambik cuti 3 hari. Ask your husband to do the same. Then have quality time together. You stay in bed and don't move around so much. get hubby to cook and pamper you. :)

happened to my friend and she got pregnant after one month of that 3 days (fill in the blank) adventure. Hehehe ;)

mana la tau kan.. can always try ;)

suzequatro said...

chill ok. the day shall come, one fine day :)

thewailer said...

by God's will, you will hear a child's laughter ;)

Cosmic_GurL said...

missy - Kalau pakai speedboat kang tak pasal2 langgar jeti! Hahaha!

ifzan - Thanks dear..what an adult thing to say. Hahaha...still cant forget your "IKANO" joke la

tiena - Mmg tengah cuba dan cuba lagi la ni sampai penat! :P

ernie - thanks dear...semoga both of us akan dpt rezeki tu ASAP! :)

shell - Serious abt that gynae thing? Hmm..yang angkat kaki tu mmg dok buat la sampai lenguh! Hahaha! Thanks shell :)

akula - LOL! Yeah I got the idea. Thanks bro! Ure a real jem!
Tapi 2 kali sehari? Penat tu!

mobilemom - Hmmm...thts a good idea! Thanks dear!

suze & thewailer - thanks guys! :))

trueblue said...

Don't worry babe. Your time will come. Jangan stress sangat. Tu yang susah nanti tu. *hugs*

UglyButAdorable said...

CG dahling...dolu dolu kawin belum nikah tu kire boleh pakai laaa...nie dah senja nie....susah la skit....tapi byk pulak dugaan.hahahahaaa....

missy ku - oii..haku ingat ko yg byk stock weeiih!!! baru nka mintak satu..

Fabmama said...

This is purely based on my own experience :-

If you go see a gynae now, he/she will only consult you aje, and tell you that it's normal to not conceive within a year or two. The best they will do is ask you to come back after you reached your 1st year anniversary.

But, you can usaha. Monitor your ovulation cycle (you can get the ovulation calculator online). Also, after your love-making sessions, put a pillow under your waist, Insya Allah gravity will help! (This works for me for both my pregnancies :) )

Also, avoid carbonated drinks, coffee, tea, chocolates and start taking folic acid vitamin from now!

Wish you all the best! :)

Monster Mom said...

Doa banyak banyak sis!!!

Shopper Mom said...

i hear you.

all have been said by the rest up there.

*hugs*

dzu said...

have faith in HIM.
and try byk byk kali lagi...im sure your hubby pun suka.
:)

ifzan tiggal comment mcm mat rempit lah.
ish

Dade Ghost said...

Hi CG... 5 months married, u worried about being pregnant?

My advice... enjoy yourself with hubby the first year... maybe 2nd year u try getting pregnant....

Cosmic_GurL said...

trueblue - I know but can't help it la...try to console myself by saying it's okay, it's only been 5 months but sometimes it just gets to you especially when I think about ALL my sisters-in-law yang cepat jer pregnantnyer...

UBA - Hehehe..kalau tak der dugaan bukan life namanyer :) Missy tu cam byk jer spare..ahaks!

fabmama - Oh wow! this really helps. Thanks loly. But ala cannot drink tea/coffee and eat chocs? Matilah! Thats like my favs!

monster mom - Insyaallah..pagi petang, siang malam doa tau

shopper mom - Thanks. Hugs are good :)

Dzu - Hahaha! Try sampai kena yer Dzu?
Ifzan kan mmg raja rempit!

DG - Errmm...im not getting any younger la bro so thats why trying ASAP :)

Nour said...

Hey ya,

I think 5 mths tu is too early la babe, just enjoy the time you still have for yourself and the other half, every day is like going thru your honeymoon. I was told by a close friend, the gynae will say worry only if it is over a year. So enjoy dulu before that special day comes ya!

Amy said...

CG - saya queen of 'waiting to get a baby'..4 tawun ok? Dulu2 mmg frust je everytime period tapi lama2 dah immune. And yes, after 1 year pi la check up and must be prepared lepas tahu result..there is no space to blame each other, time ni la kena be supportive of each other. So far, my option is only IVF, which will cost me a bomb. Am taking a year break from any treatment - penat dah. Maybe end year baru nak start balik, or if my rezeki came sooner, I'll be happy :P. Hang in there, what you're feeling now is normal,girl. Tak saper tahu kalau tak rasa sendiri..I feel you :D

The Winged Acrophobic said...

When we tried to have kids, we were not making love but just trying to have a baby. It didn't work. Then we just made love. And the babies came. You know what I mean, sistah!

lx said...

hey! don't get too stressed out k. sometimes stress will do it to you ... so let it all come naturally ;-)

Cosmic_GurL said...

WA - So wht ure saying is, have lotsa lotsa sex? LOL! Yup, Thats wht Akula said too :)

Alex - Thanks dear. Working on it :)

katakbesar said...

cosmic..
janganlah la sedih sangat yek
it is not about cepat lambat or ada tak de

ada hikmah atas segalanya

usaha, yakin, tawakkal

EDDY PURNAMA SPARROW said...

bukan rezeki lagi tu....
when the time is right, insyaAllah you will be blessed with a baby...

gravtkills said...

err saya hendak comment the newer post tapi tidak boleh...err JT concert? where? when?

Cosmic_GurL said...

katakbesar - thanks dear..sabar jer la ni :)

eddy - wen la bro? Blog pun tak update2 lagi ni pesal?

gravtkills - I know!!! Skoopid blogspot telah menghilangkan my comment box. Arrghhh! Naik darah I pagi2 buta ni..

Oh btw, JT's concert is sometime in Nov. I read it in the Star a couple of months back :)

EDDY PURNAMA SPARROW said...

hallo makcik...blog dah update...what happenlah blog comments tak ade ni....dont be 2 ganas....

kesian ur phone....u should consider the keganasan factor though...

ti.e.na said...

i think u mustve checked the box to disable comments.heheh :p

Lil' Miss Easydent said...

darling, wht happened to ur comment box??? kena virus ke? anyway dun worry too much about getting pregnant. at least u're married... me? gila nak beranak tapi laki pon tade, kesian kan? isk isk

The Winged Acrophobic said...

Mystery of the missing comment box followed by the mystery of the charger hole..... what a Monday! Patutlah mengamuk. Sabar ya sistah.

vanderwijck said...

hehe.. sabar.. sabar.. pi masuk setting then cek allow x comment box tu.. :D

Cosmic_GurL said...

eddy purnama - Arrgghhhh! Kan I dah warning dont remind me abt my keganasan! GRRRR!!! Btw, tadi dah bawak my phone gi Low Yatt. Have to leave it there for a few days. They say the data inside would be lost. Dahlah I tak save the phone numbers. Sigh..Told you it's just not my day today

tiena - I terletak "Do Not Comment On New Post" or something like that...sigh..

LME - U nak lelaki yang mcm mana? Eddy Sparrow tu kawan I..single and available..Baik plak tu. Hehehehe...

WA - Mystery solved bro. Thank god. If not I wouldve sent a nasty mail to the blogspot administrator. Padahal it was my own mistake :P

vanderwijck - Dah pun. Hehehe...I yang tersilap

Desparil said...

situations like this is where the old adage 'if at first you don't succeed, try and try again' is to be heeded. :P

question is, will the end product be a gooner or a red devil? soalan cepumas nih..