Thursday, May 15, 2008

Boleh Blah!

I texted a friend a few days ago asking her to go out with me and our other friends and below was her reply,

“I would love to but I can’t la. You know la, lepas dah kawin ni nak pegi mana2 bukannya senang cam masa single dulu. I don’t wanna leave my hubby alone in the house la. Kesian dia. You know right? You pun dah kawin, kan? Dosa tau tinggal-tinggal suami ni. Next time okay”.

Blergh blergh blergh!!!

You think you’re the only woman who is married issit? Like hello!!!!!! Your husband will die if you leave him to go out with your friends issit? You mean you have never left him alone in the house? Before you married him, boleh plak dia duduk sorang2 kat rumah when you went out with us. Tahulah baru kawin 6 bulan! Sheesh!

Malas nak layan! So condescending her text message!

Okaylah, lepas ni I tak keluar mana2 with my friends. Jadik isteri solehah okay! Duduk rumah masak cekodok hari2 :P
p/s : I am married but I don't abandon my friends. I know my limits and I am so thankful that my husband is not the controlling kind. As long as I tell him where I'm going and with who I'm hanging out with, he's okay with it. Sigh...some people!

27 comments:

Daddy + Mummy said...

hehehe..kelakar la baca.. :P

akula said...

Ala, kawan you tu tak boleh ke mengaku seronoknya di ANZALKAN. :)

Wardatul said...

hey there,
I was lurking around and help but put in my 2 cents worth.. biarkan dia.. tinggal la Gf dia semua sekarang. she doesnt realize that in time, she will eventually need her GF's. I did an entry on GF back in December http://yourstruly79.blogspot.com/2007/12/you-mean-world-to-me.html. We will always need our Gf's no matter what ;) cheers!

katakbesar said...

akula;
anzal ke inzal?
hehe..

cosmic;
well, give her another 6 months
she would probably have to 'swallow' her own words
;)

Anonymous said...

there are a few points to look into this:-(i'm writting from a husband's point of view)

1. YES, i was like that, during the 1st months of kahwin, why you ask me...maybe I was trying to show of who's in-charge.

2. once the months pass by, then u realize its okay, if she goes out. Bukan nya dgn lelaki or etc. And if she's goin' out with lelaki pun, its only during lunch time, makan ramai2x, not like specificlly during weekend ke ape ke ...

3. maybe u should give yr friend, some time to finish of a 1 year of the marriage life, then ask her again. I bet you her answer would be different. (kot laa!)

4. we say, marriage is about trust, blah2x.... true.. very true,,,but we are human. there's always a small DEVIL inside us you says the opposite.

best regards
WLU****

Monster Mom said...

She may have her own good reason to say that...anyway, let her enjoy her "marriage" moment...
While you go out and have fun with your other GFsssss!!!

Anonymous said...

Tah..i baca pun cam gile poyos ah. I hv encounter frens yg pas kawin jadi cam gini. I rasa sgtla tak cool nyer ok. Tapi itu pilihan masing-masing la..Kawin doesnt mean life u only revolve around ur husband. SHEESH.

Anonymous said...

CG,

I think if i were to receive that message, I would have deleted her number. Yes, people should change after certain phases, but to a certain limit.

I remember in GA, Derek asked why Meredith kept Christina's secret, her answer was "she was there when you werent".

Not everyone is lucky to marry a friend. Some of them have great lovers but cant really be a friend, u know what I mean.

pugly said...

You patut give it back to her nicely: "Oi Cik Tipah, sakitkan hati orang dgn insensitive remarks macam ni pun berdosa tau? You pun orang Islam kan?"

Lynn said...

Gotta be what I am, i.e. my own person minus husmand, child, mom, dad or anyone at all. SELF. Surely you can still be the good wife, mom and child you are being away with pals for a few hours at least. 'nuff said.

Anonymous said...

Oh my god, that message is HILARIOUS! show it to her in 6 months time, i bet you she'll just die of shame..just reading it is giving me the "eiiiiee" goosebumps!

hope all is well, dear..

xoxo,
banana

east43street said...

Kawan you tu rasanya bukan kesian kat hubby, tapi macam tak percaya hubby aje tu..... lambat laun boleh jadi QC pulak tu...

aizat.cinta.goddess said...

u are so cool..haha..love cekodok ok!!!

Cosmic_GurL said...

D&M - Masa dpt sms tu tak rasa kelakar langsung dik oi..hehehe..

akula - Sorry e..saya budak baru belajar.."ANZAL" tu maksudnya apa ah? :)

YT - Tulah! I nak tengok esok whether shes gonna call us when the "honeymoon" period is over..hmmpphh! Malas nak layan!

katakbesar - I seriously dont know wht INZAL or ANZAL means okay...yeah, let wait and see okay...

Anon - 1st point : Seriously??? Gawd! Thts just so NOT cool okay! :P
In a marriage trust is very important. Im not saying u have to trust your spouse 100% la. Thats why u need to know who your spouse is friends with..then bila she/he cakap nak kuar with those ppl u know she/he is not mixing with the wrong crowd :)

MM - Yeah u said it! Who needs her?! Hehehhe..

Emmalin - Exactly! Pas tu nanti bila gaduh ngan husb barulah terhegeh-hegeh nak carik kita for shoulder to cry on..hhmmpphh! Sungguh tak cool okay!

ms istanbul - I felt like tht too i.e. deleting her number but tak sampai hati...ppl should remember tht sometimes u need close friends to help get you thru your problems...it's a bonus is u do happen to marry yr best friend but how many is that lucky huh? Life is not as simple as those romantic movies :)

pugly - Ala! I tak terpikir plak nak balas cam tu..hehehe..next time ill consult you kay :P

lynn - Yup i feel the same way..ala baru kahwin tu lynn..we'll see in a few more months whether berkepit 24 jam lagi tak

Banana - Hehehhee...yeah thts why i kept her message...

E43St - Hahahaha...i dunno lah bro, maybe lah kot :P

ACG - Hehehe..thanks..cekodok is my fav kuih too!

Amy said...

OMG like seriously...?? *pengsan* :)

FairyGodmother said...

hi..just jumped in the conversation..

drama laaaa...

i am married, with a toddler lagi!

and yet, we still have our boogie nights with the GFs!


what's sooo wrong with that!


serious drama.

Lady Gargle said...

Giler poyo sms dia

Heheheheheh

Lily G said...

*gasp*

Gila smug married. Couldn't she just have said she's busy/ada hal?

TunaTurner said...

yeah agree with lily,cakap je la busy bersenggama.:P

akula said...

*tumpang lalu*
ti.e.na

Ha ah, bersenggama kenala sampai anzal.

Get it CG? :)

kawaii_desu said...

haha...
hubby dia jenis control kot...

Lily G said...

lol @ t.i.e.n.a
tapi kalau tengah bermukah mana boleh hantar sms. then again, some ppl can eat kuaci also.

Anonymous said...

maybe dia kena control kuku besi ngan laki dia and malu nak cerita kat kawan2, so she made up that isteri misali front. in turn, making us, yg hv no problems hanging out with our gfs feel like isteri derhaka pulak.

pehal la kan?

Leen AshBurn said...

Ahem, bila awak buat cekodok tu, ajak la kami datang makan ya? Hehe. Am actually glad that almost all my friends are not Smug Marrieds. Ada lah sebijik dua, tapi that one boleh ignore hehe.

Anonymous said...

hehe.. poyo nya ur fren tuh... takpelah nanti in the future kalau die terhegeh2 nak hang out dgn u ke mengadu2 dgn u ke then u show her the sms lah... can't wait to see her reaction.. hehe.

sorry tp i ni mmg kejam skit.. =p

Cosmic_GurL said...

Amy - Yup seriously!! Tu yang geram giler tu

Fairygodmother - Can u make her disappear with a wave of you wand my dear fairygodmother? :P

frankensteina - Hahaha..im glad ure with me on tht!

lilyliverbird - Tulah, i dunno why she had to give a detailed excuse. Menyakitkan hati jer

tiena - Hahaha..lama giler tak dgr tht word i.e. "senggama"...

akula - Aaaahhh..so THATS wht it means...hahaha..thank you for the lesson :P

KD - Tak taulah plak if her husb jenis control..

lilyliverbird - Not only eat kuaci, I think can finish reading the newspaper oso :P

ctm - The husb doesnt look like the controlling type...then again he might be..but in any case, takyah la bg the condescending message kan?!

Leen - Jgn kata cekodok, kalau i buat cucur udang or cucur badak i will jemput u dtg rumah makan :P

Anon - Hahaha..yeah i still keep the sms

NalisaMiharbi™ said...

whoa, you sound real mad there! But you're right. We women should maintain frenship with our GFs no matter how happily married we are. Just wait till she's lonely when left alone by her dear hubby to hang out with his buddies for teh tarik, a game of football & such.. & no gf to talk to, then she'd realize, she's losing out on the true meaning of frenship.