You can buy me pearls
Take me on a cruise around the world
Baby, you know I'm worth it
Dinner lit by candles
Run my bubble bath
Make love tenderly to last and last
Baby, you know I'm worth it
Wanna please, wanna keep, wanna treat your woman right?
Not just dough, better show, that you know she's worth your time
You will lose, if you choose, to refuse to put her first
She will and she can find a man who knows her worth!
Cause a real man knows a real woman when he sees her (when he sees her)
And a real woman knows a real man
Ain't afraid to please her (please her)
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first (first)
And a real man just can't deny
A woman's worth
That's just half of the lyrics to the song "A Woman's Worth" by Alicia Keys.
How much is a woman worth these days. Don't get me wrong. I'm talking about how much should a man pay for mas kahwin or dowry to marry a Malaysian woman in this day and age.
How much should a woman put as her mas kahwin? What is the standard price now?
Back then in the 90's if the girl is an SPM leaver then usually the girl’s parents would put RM5K as the mas kahwin. Nowadays I heard that even SPM leavers are worth RM10K provided she looks like Erra Fazira or Maya Karin.
If she is a university graduate then it would be between RM8K-RM10K now. Not possible it could reach till RM20K.
Kalau ada masters, lagilah mahal mak oi!
Some girls chose their birth date as the value of their maskahwin. So if you’re born on 25.12.1974, then your maskahwin would be RM251,219-74???????????!! Ya Allah! Can buy a nice 2-storey apartment with that kinda money! And would anyone in the right mind pay for such an amount. If you’re the Sultan or the brother of the Sultan of Brunei then probably you would.
But seriously, would a girl feel less worthy if the value of her mas kahwin is lower than what is priced in the market? Would a guy feel less manly if he couldn’t afford the mas kahwin fixed by the girl’s parents and had to resort to borrowing from a bank or relatives? Would the girl help the guy pay some of the mas kahwin to ease the burden a lil bit?
During my bother's engagement ceremony, when my mom asked the girl's parents how much is the mas kahwin, the father simply said, "Letaklah berapa yang rasa patut". That should be easy enough right? Wrong!! See, if you put low then they might get the impression that you dont think so highly of their daughter, which is not good to start off a marriage. But if you letak harga tinggi, then my brother will have to wait for a few more years before cukup duitla kan. I mean he's only been working for what, 2 years now?
I guess the key word here is compromise.
Bak kata orang tua-tua, “Kalau letak mahal sangat pun nanti tak ada orang nak, jadi anak dara tua ler jawabnyer!”