Thursday, July 10, 2008

Of Feeling Lonely...

For some people it is easier to forgive than to forget. But for some, forgetting is a lot easier than forgiving.

Would you forgive someone who said or did something to hurt you even when they didn’t ask for it, out of your own free will?

I think it is easier for me to forgive than to forget. Maybe that is because I am a lawyer and I remember every single details of my life. A curse some may say. When I broke up with my 1st ex for cheating on me (he admitted it few years later after we broke up) I thought I would never forget what he did. I still haven’t. I remembered everything he said to me, the reason he gave for breaking up with me. But slowly I forgave him even though he didn’t ask for my forgiveness until a few years later. I needed to forgive him so I could move on with my life.

Then there was this friend of mine of often said things without thinking. He often shoots off his mouth and you wouldn’t believe the things that came out from his mouth. He thinks that people would be okay with whatever he said just because he said it was a joke. I know some of you would say, “Why don’t you tell him off? Tell him that you don’t think it’s funny and that he was being rude?”

Well I wish it was that simple. You see, people like this will come back and tell you,

“Why are you so uptight? It was just a joke! Can’t you take a joke? Next time I will never joke with you coz obviously you can’t take it! You are so sensitive!”

See how they turn it around and make it look like you’re the one who is over-sensitive and doesn’t have a sense of humour? So when you are around these kinds of people it’s best to stay quiet or better yet don’t be around these kind of people. Your hati tak sakit and you’ll have a peace of mind.

I was listening to this song called “The Heart of The Matter” and I can so relate with the lyrics.

“All the people in your life who've come and gone
They let you down, you know they hurt your pride
Better put it all behind you; cause life goes on
You keep carrying that anger, it'll eat you up inside
I wanna be happily ever after
And my heart is so shattered
But I know it's about forgiveness
Even if, even if, you don't love me anymore…”

On another note, I went to watch “Sepi” last night with hubby. I thought it was a good movie. But somehow “Cinta” was better. Maybe because when I watched “Cinta” I was crying like there’s no tomorrow sampai my sleeves jadik mangsa lelehan airmata and air hidung I. In “Sepi”, I love how the characters came together and how they are connected to each other. I loved Ean-Imaan-Khalil storyline. I thought Baizura Kahar’s and Tony Eusoffe’s acting were superb, although I thought Marya-Sufi storyline was a bit mengarut and corny to the max. Kasut aircond?? Seriously??

What else? Oh yeah, Afdlin was … Afdlin. The character was created for him. I don’t see anyone else playing “Adam”. He was funny yet you can feel his loneliness. I’m sure a lot of people can relate with Adam. Always being invited to weddings but don’t know when you are getting married yourself. Always putting on a tough exterior and making jokes when on the inside it hurts like hell to feel so alone. Yeah, I can relate to Adam.

Anyways, I would still recommend that you watch the movie. Bring some tissue ya. You won’t cry throughout the whole movie but you will definitely cry at some parts. Just be prepared.


allaboutattitude said...

I heard so much about the movie! Gotta go watch it!

akula said...

Hokay, WIll definately go and watch it.

j or ji said...

note 1.
i dunno to forgive or just lost in time.
recently,thanks to facebook!-my ex traced me back and telling me how regret she was, leaving me for another guy that she married (and divorce) blabla..then i realise, i want to forgive but i am mad,i want to be mad but no point forgive or to forget? argh!

me dun go watch movie at cinema.and if me go,not for a malay movie..
dah pernah cuba sekali..tak boleh blah la..masa tu tengok citer Baik punya cilok..

Cosmic_GurL said...

allaboutattitude - Yup pls go watch it. U wont regret it :)

akula - Cepat before abis kat cinema :)

jorji - Yeah it can be confusing. You have to listen to your heart and trust yr instinct. No harm in one is asking u to forget. Jadikan pengajaran :)

So u tak penah tengok Cinta la?

ms istanbul said...


"No one benefits from forgiveness more than the one who forgives".

There were moments in my life when I realised that by forgiving, I was able to move forward. It gets easier each time and somehow, we become calmer by doing so.

In retrospect, by appreciating what we have instead of what was lost, makes it easier to forgive. And more good things will come... *smiles*

Monster Mom said...

As for me I'd rather forget first and then just forgive...all the things that I've forgotten...

I like Cinta... nice storyline...

The Pisces Man said...

Hmmm.. guess some Msian film makers are getting good, eh?

Most of the time, I can never forgive, let alone forget.. all I do is ignore, but don't the other party dare to come into my territory!

katakbesar said...

it's really tricky
definitely and no doubt

at times;
- it's easier to forget than forgive
and vice versa
- we forgive, but didnt forget
- it's forgotten, but not forgiven
- the best is and we wish we could, forgive and forget

well.. good luck!
c' est la vie

Anonymous said...

forgive but never forget!

Yours Truly said...

I am in agreement with u from line 1 till the end.

The thing about adlin or adam is that, we can be lonely even when surrounded by people.

I cried when marya waited for sufi but got to know that he passed away. It was sad..

gravtkills said...

forgiven but not CINTA and no SEPI for me

Lynn said...

Hahaha, the symptoms of being Law taught - you just remember everything!

Well, since I remember almost everything, I'm one who's hard to forget. Let's just say I still enjoy listening to Dixie Chick's number.